I recently read an article at the Huffingtonpost (http://www.huffingtonpost.com) that pique my interest as a Toronto wedding photographer. Instead of paraphrasing the article and being accused of plagiarism – which is I think is being the trend now in the wedding industry – I have decided to just reprint the article here verbatim.

Again, to avoid any legal issues – I want to make it clear that the article below is lifted directly from Huffingtonpost –  and purposefully omitted the twitter handle(to protect their privacy) asking the question.

Here goes :

How To Tell The Bride You Don’t Want To Be Her ‘Maid (Without Being A B*tch)

The rules of wedding etiquette are constantly changing, making it difficult for modern brides, grooms and guests to find up-to-date and correct information. That’s why we’ve launched #MannersMondays, a weekly series in which we ask our followers on Twitter and Facebook to submit their most burning etiquette-related questions. Then, with the help of our team of etiquette experts, we get you the right answers to your biggest Big Day dilemmas. Check out this week’s question below!

@HuffPostWedding @AnnaPost How do I gracefully decline an invitation 2b a bridesmaid?I barely talk 2the bride+don’t know who is the groom

Anna Post — great-great-granddaughter of etiquette guru Emily Post and author of Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette — is here to help us answer this week’s question. Find out what she had to say below:

If you don’t want to be a bridesmaid, let the bride know as soon as possible. Thank her for thinking of you (even if you don’t understand why she did), and then let her know that you would like to decline. How much you saydepends on why you are saying “no.”

The tricky part, in this case, is that while she thinks you two are close, you don’t see the relationship that way. There is simply no positive way for you to explain that you don’t feel close to her. Instead, say, “Thanks so much for thinking of me. Unfortunately I won’t be able to/It’s not a good time/I think it’s better if I don’t — I hope you understand.” If you are planning to attend the wedding, follow up with how excited you are to attend.

In the (hopefully) unlikely event that she presses for why, be prepared to answer. The best option is not to answer the question. A broad “It’s just not going to work” is both true and lacking in specifics that could be hurtful. The alternative is to spell it out for her, but I can’t imagine that leading anywhere good. “Because I really don’t get why you asked,” or, “We really aren’t close enough for me to be your bridesmaid,” are pretty much impossible to say — especially as it’s clear that she doesn’t see it that way. This is why it’s not a good idea for the bride to start digging for more of an explanation, as she may not like the answer and it will only get awkward for everyone fast.

If your reasons for declining aren’t about your relationship with the bride, but are instead about a busy schedule or your financial situation, the wording above would also work. But if you are comfortable talking about it, this is the time to tell her the real reason why, as it will allay any of the bride’s concerns about why you’re declining. In the case of financial concerns, opening up to the bride has a possible added benefit: She might be willing to cover your expenses so that you can still be a bridesmaid.


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Continuing on my previous post, I was out of the country for some needed rest and was fortunate and honored to witness a wedding of a relative. Although, I was not hired to shoot their wedding, my wife and some of her relatives asked me to take some pictures at the wedding and of course being a Toronto wedding photographer, I was always ready for action – so to speak.

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In a Filipino traditional catholic wedding, the entourage, may consists of a couple of flower girls and their escorts, the ring bearer, the bible bearer, the maid of honor and bridesmaids, the best man and groomsmen or more. For those of you who are not familiar with how a catholic wedding goes in the Philippines, relatives and friends of the bride and groom would “volunteer” their child to be a part of the entourage – and the bride and groom must accommodate such “requests” otherwise the parents would feel bad if their child was not included. So what I am trying to point is, the bridal party may be less or more depending on the circumstance.

Only in the Philippines.

A little sneak peek of a wedding that I had the privilege to be a part of as a Toronto wedding photographer.

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As most traditional Catholic wedding, the bride is being escorted by her parents to the altar to meet her groom who patiently waits for her.

More about this wedding coming soon.

Hi folks!. Yes it’s been a while since I last updated my blog.  I have been busy lately with personal stuff and client fulfillment. As I mentioned previously, the response from my October portrait program has been nothing short but phenomenal. I clearly didn’t anticipate the influx of client inquiries and booking sessions. We are now in the last few days of October and although it seems like the dust finally settled – we are still full steam ahead with our scheduled portraits.

Of course,  as a Toronto wedding photographer, I keep myself updated with what’s going on with the wedding / portrait industry and I’ve been reading some articles online in relation to my business and there is always one topic that keeps popping up with regards to couples getting married and hiring wedding professionals for their wedding – that wedding professionals – be it photographers, dj’s and even planners are over-charging their clients. Unfortunately, this is not TRUE.

Here is an article that I read from the website http://www.bookmorebrides.com and I would suggest that couples who are getting married should take the time to read it and hopefully will be enlightened as to why wedding professionals like me charge that way.

It’s the first week of October and the “Models Wanted” program that I launched to celebrate my new website is doing great. In fact, I’m overbooked until the end of the month,

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I didn’t expect to get this overwhelming response from my clients. I love when clients understand the importance of photography. I love it when they themselves tell me (without asking) that they want to do this not because it is CHEAP but because they wanted to have something to cherish forever.

As a Toronto wedding photographer and Toronto portrait photographer, I have been blessed as I get the chance to photograph people and be an integral part in telling their story.

So, although I have mentioned earlier that I am overbooked until the end of this month, I am EXTENDING this program until December to accommodate the others who have inquired and have shown interest in having their story told through photographs.



After four years of resisting to upgrade my website from a FLASH-based site to HTML5, I finally gave it a try. Well, it’s no surprise that HTML5 is all the rage these days because clearly, who needs a FLASH based site if HTML5 can basically do the same things that the old technology can, plus it is mobile / smartphone (read: iphone/ipad/ipod) friendly.

As I keep on mentioning, being a Toronto wedding photographer as well as Toronto portrait photographer, I constantly have to evolve and embrace new technologies which enable me to be at the forefront of the wedding and portrait industry business. Sure, there may be some things which I am not aware off yet, but sooner or later I will get to learn these new things and embrace it with open arms.

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Since I have a “new” website… I will need “new” content as well, so what is the best way to get “fresh” content but to do a casting call. So anyone out there who thinks they are a model/ want to be a model or someone who knows who wants to model, ask them to contact us at info@redpixelphotography.com or to fill out our contact form on the website and make sure to mention “models wanted”.

It is always a dilemma which often comes to mind of the engaged pair on where they are able to secure for themselves the perfect photographer who will be able to help make their wedding moments unforgettable for life. They need to have a professional photographer who understand how to transform their wedding into their most important event rather than a liability . This concern is absolutely challenging to address and to secure that type of professional photographer is even more challenging. Wedding photographers Toronto are a plenty, but how can one select the very best amongst all of them is a concern for most. Allow us to understand how you can get the most suitable professional photographer. For starters, check out the bundles along with the prices offered by each vendors. There are three levels offered typically ranging from inexpensive to expensive ones. What is actually most crucial is the fact that all the ranges should provide you pretty much the same kind of quality with just a bit variation in the number of photographs. If any Toronto wedding photographer provides you with this then you certainly should select it.

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Secondly , make sure to choose those photographers that are working at one undertaking per day as opposed to more than one . These wedding photographers give your holy matrimony their best time and focus. Hence make sure to choose these solely. Thirdly , attempt to avoid the types who likes to capture images in jpg format instead select those that shoot in raw mode. The highest possible image resolution can be captured under the raw mode and the ones that do not inform you of it are simply just saving themselves from the difficulties of converting the images. Hence be careful not to get trapped in their strategies. Fourthly , always seek the services of a
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Destination wedding photographer provides you with all of these as well plus they have in their resume an experience of more twenty-five years. They provide you the perfect products with the finest quality because they are well-known for their greatest commitments in this field. A professional photographer really should basically possess a distinctive style of his which can help to make him the most preferred one among the rest of their kind.